First aid for lovesickness
Martina Feichter studied biology with an elective subject pharmacy in Innsbruck and also immersed herself in the world of medicinal plants. From there it was not far to other medical topics that still captivate her to this day. She trained as a journalist at the Axel Springer Academy in Hamburg and has been working for since 2007 - first as an editor and since 2012 as a freelance writer.
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At least once in a lifetime it hits everyone - lovesickness! If someone doesn't reciprocate your feelings, it hurts a lot and you think it'll never go away. Fortunately, that's not true. However, the grief doesn't go away overnight: Just as it takes time to really fall in love, it also takes time for pain and disappointment to fade. Here you will find tips that will make it a little easier for you.
- Talk about it! Talk to your friends or other people close to you about your lovesickness. Saying out loud what is troubling and troubling you is always better than swallowing everything down and pretending that everything is fine.
- Howl at you! When you feel like crying, let the tears flow calmly and don't try to hold them back. It can be really good to let the grief flow a little way out of you. This also applies to boys - that "real" men (are not allowed to) cry is nonsense!
- Write the sorrow off your soul! Sometimes with lovesickness it helps to write down everything that torments and preoccupies you. This can be in the form of a diary or a letter - possibly to the person who doesn't reciprocate your feelings. That helps, even if you don't even send the letter afterwards.
- Be nice to you Be especially nice to yourself now. For example, consciously make yourself a nice evening in your room with your favorite music, let your mother cook your favorite food for you or give yourself a little something - be it flowers, a book or a new CD .
- Don't blame yourself! Just because the other is not reciprocating your feelings doesn't mean that you are not worth loving, or that you may not be pretty or interesting enough! You don't choose who to fall in love with and who not to - so nobody is “to blame” for their lovesickness.
- Distract yourself! Retiring for a while with lovesickness is okay. But don't make it permanent! Every now and then, make a conscious effort to distract yourself from your grief. Go to the cinema with friends or go on a bike trip with your clique. Enjoy it and remember: With every real laugh, the heartache gets a little smaller!
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